How To Be The Divine 'It Girl ' Of Your City 🌟

What does it take to become her? The girl who walks into a room and leaves an invisible trail of stardust. The girl whose energy makes strangers smile, whose kindness feels like sunlight, and who is unapologetically herself—whether she’s rocking a couture gown or a perfectly broken-in hoodie. The divine It Girl. She isn’t born; she’s made.  

Cities carry their own natural symphonies & she's the melody you can’t forget. Becoming her isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence. It’s the little things, the deliberate choices, and the way she makes life feel a little brighter, wherever she goes. Here’s how to embody that magic. 

 

Master the Art of the Entrance (and the Acknowledgment) 

An It Girl doesn’t just walk into a room—she enters with intention. But here’s the real magic: she makes others feel like they matter. She locks eyes with the barista and says, “Thank you.” She greets the doorman by name. She smiles at the stranger who looks like they’re having a rough day.  

Confidence and kindness go hand in hand. She knows that the energy you put out into the world is what you’ll get back. And nothing is more magnetic than a woman who’s as charming as she is gracious.  

Create Your Own Style Story  

Every It Girl has a style that’s uniquely her own, and the best part? She doesn’t follow trends—she makes them. Whether she’s daring to wear a vintage dress from her grandmother’s closet or fully embracing her love of athleisure, her secret weapon is authenticity.  

And yes, sometimes the It Girl is unapologetically basic. However, even within this basic style, she radiates authenticity. Fashion isn’t about fitting in; it’s about standing out—or simply feeling fabulous in your own skin. So wear what makes you feel like the star you are, whether it’s a bold red lip or a basic white T-shirt.  

Claim Your Space With Grace 

The divine It Girl knows her city like the back of her hand, but her presence isn’t ruled by exclusivity—it’s ruled by connection. She knows the best little café on the corner, but she’ll also tell you exactly what to order there. She has her favorite speakeasy, but she’ll happily share the password with anyone who asks.  

This isn’t about gatekeeping. It’s about building connections, creating joy, and being the person others can rely on for hot tips. After all, an It Girl doesn’t just live in her city—she makes it better.  

 Embrace Your Mystique (Without Losing Your Warmth) 

Yes, the It Girl is mysterious. She doesn’t overshare, and she leaves a little room for imagination. But her mystique is never cold or aloof—it’s inviting. She’s intriguing because she’s warm. She’s the kind of person you want to get to know because she sees the world—and you—through the lens of her own je ne sais quoi magic.  

Her Instagram feed might look like a perfectly curated highlight reel, but in person, she’s real, approachable, and genuinely curious about others. Being an It Girl isn’t about being untouchable; it’s about being unforgettable. 

Let Your Inner Light Lead the Way 

Life can be chaotic, but the It Girl moves through it with grace, like a candle glowing in the dark. She’s the first to lend a hand, the first to offer a kind word, and the first to laugh at herself when things don’t go as planned.  She makes people feel seen and heard. Whether it’s the florist who wraps her bouquet or the waiter delivering her dessert, she acknowledges everyone with genuine gratitude. Because she knows that kindness isn’t just a nice gesture—it’s her superpower.  

Dare to Be the Main Character (in the Most Humble Way Possible)

The It Girl knows that she’s the star of her own life, but here’s the twist: she doesn’t need to be the center of attention. She’s the main character because she lives authentically, unapologetically, and with intention.  She takes risks, embraces her quirks, and dares to dream big. She owns every moment.

Build Your Social Network (Organically and Effortlessly)

She knows that building a social life in a city isn’t about quantity—it’s about quality.
Start With Your Interests: Join that book club, running group, or pottery class you’ve been eyeing. Not only will you sharpen a skill or nurture a passion, but you’ll also meet like-minded people.

Be Open to Invitations: Say yes to happy hours, gallery openings, and even that slightly awkward networking event. You never know when a random outing will lead to a lifelong friend or a new adventure.

Volunteer: Whether it’s a local food bank or an environmental cleanup crew, volunteering is a powerful way to give back to your community and meet people who share your values.

And don’t be afraid to take the initiative—host a dinner party, suggest a weekend brunch, or even invite a colleague to check out a new exhibit. Social circles don’t form themselves; they need a spark.

Frequent Local Gems

She knows her city’s rhythm. Become a regular at your favorite spots, whether it’s the corner coffee shop, the quirky bookstore, or the wine bar with the best playlist. Over time, faces become familiar, and friendly nods turn into real connections. Pro tip: Chat with the staff. Knowing your bartender’s or barista’s name isn’t just classy; it’s how you become part of the city.

Be a Connector

An It Girl isn’t just about collecting friends—she’s about connecting them. She’s the one who introduces her friend who loves yoga to her colleague who teaches it. She curates groups of people who might not have met otherwise and creates a vibe where everyone feels welcome. It’s as simple as saying, “I’m hosting a wine night next Friday, and you have to meet my friend Claire.” Your city isn’t just where you live—it’s your community.

 

Dive Into City Life

To truly know your city, you have to immerse yourself in it.

Keep an eye on local events—pop-up markets, outdoor movie screenings, new restaurant openings. Sign up for newsletters or follow local influencers to stay in the loop. Every corner of a city has its own personality. Spend a Saturday wandering a new area. Try the mom-and-pop diner, stroll through the park, or attend that tiny theater’s indie play. Whether it’s an art festival, a food crawl, or a music gig, get out there and experience what makes your city unique.

Be Unapologetic  

Whether it’s her bold fashion choices, her daring career moves, or her love of cheesy rom-coms, the It Girl doesn’t dim her light for anyone. She knows that being herself—flaws and all—is what makes her divine.  She’s confident but never cocky, bold but never brash. She leads with her heart and wears her kindness like a crown.  

Have Routine That Grounds You 

Everyone needs downtime. Balance your busy social calendar with personal rituals that keep you grounded—a weekly solo dinner, a morning walk through your favorite park, or a regular yoga class. This not only recharges your energy but keeps your connection to the city personal and intimate.

 

As I wandered through my very own city last night, watching the busy world unfold around me, I realized that the divine It Girl isn’t just a persona—it’s a mindset. She’s a woman who knows her worth, shares her light, and dares to live life on her own terms.  

So step into your light. Be kind, be daring, be uniquely yourself. The city is yours to explore, connect with, and leave a little more magical than you found it. That’s what it truly means to be divine. Because when you carry yourself with grace and live authentically, you simply are divine.

 

XOXO,  

Venus